Leadership Coaching
Thank You and I’m Sorry
(This post was first published on the blog on March 20, 2016.) Two of the important things that great leaders do well are expressing thanks and expressing apologies. Learning to give credit where credit is due and owning up to the times we need to do better are key parts to being a person worth…
Read MoreUprooting False Beliefs
There is a certain way our dysfunction manifests itself that I believe is incredibly powerful and potentially destructive: False Beliefs. Beliefs are the things we know to be true but can’t prove. Beliefs drive our behavior; they can be big (like a belief in God) or little (like a belief that being a few minutes…
Read MoreFear of Failure – Part 1
You’ve probably heard about people who work with people who are dying and, in turn, learn a lot about life by listening to regrets and words of wisdom. One of these people is Bronnie Ware—an end of life nurse who chose to write down what her patients shared. This eventually became a book: The Top…
Read MoreThe Terrible Power of Anxiety
When my husband and I were engaged, we got into a car accident on the way home from seeing a movie. A blizzard had started up while we were at the theater. It was clear when we got there, an icy mess when we left. Josh lost control of his car on the ice-filmed road…
Read MoreHigh Impact Listening
Tucked between the content on Living Systems and Leaning Into Healthy Conflict on the day we visit the jail is a segment in LEAD 365 called High Impact Listening. It is sandwiched between those two topics for good reasons. Here’s one of those reasons: Great listening breaks the power of dysfunctional living systems by stopping…
Read MoreLeading Yourself – Part 3: Rejuvenation
(This is the third of three posts on Leading Yourself. If you haven’t already, you may want to read Part 1 and Part 2.) Let me share another lesson about Leading Yourself that I learned in the the last decade. I had been living at point C for about three months, knowing that it would…
Read MoreLeading Yourself – Part 2: The Signs and Symptoms of Living at C for too long
In my last post I shared how my misplaced beliefs drove me to live at point C for so long that it pushed me over the edge to a Red-X moment (where life falls apart). If only I had enough courage, wisdom, and experience to pay attention to all the warning signs that were telling…
Read MoreLeading Yourself – Part 1: What’s Underneath?
If you recall the topic of Leading Yourself (Chapter 11), we touch on some key points around needing margin in your life, having a governor or dashboard to help you stay at a healthy level of activity, the Red X, how to say no (or at least not say yes immediately), and looking back on…
Read MoreLeaning Into Healthy Conflict
When you think back on your year in LEAD 365, do you remember the number one thing I hoped all participants would learn? If LEAD 365 alums could only be better at one thing when compared to non-alums, do you remember what I hoped that one thing would be? My hope is that all LEAD…
Read MoreThe Problem with Perception
I’ve never known anyone who was what he or she seemed; or at least, was only what he or she seemed. People carry worlds within them. I love the quote above by Neil Gaiman. I probably use it too much, but it’s become a mantra of sorts for me. It helps me approach each person…
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